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THIRD COURSE: IN THE
NEPAL ● BANDITS ● RAPPORT
met two Nepalese teen-agers at the base of the stone stairs leading up
the mountain to a cave where great meditators have attained high states
of consciousness. It was dawn when I
gray morning light, quiet cobble streets with eager anticipation of new
learning, and a morning adventure before I entered the monastery for
another day of sitting.
rough, they were blocking my passage. I
had to stop, heart fluttering in my stomach to listen inside and slow
it all down, pace myself, get slower, ride the heat waves until I knew
something.. “You want to buy our knives?”
said one of the boys. There we were, the
only inhabitants of the morning. My
thoughts weren’t cognizing any master plan, just resting in awareness
that there were not alternatives to just that moment, right then.
see those knives”, I
heard myself saying. I was handed a blood
dusted, khukuri with eight inch curved, razor sharp blade and hide
handle. I admired it and handed it back. “Let
me see the other one”. At this time I became aware that I was just
biding time, developing some kind of weird rapport around their topic,
not knowing what the next moment would bring. The
other blade looked just as used and quite ancient.
I opened my mouth and began talking very slow English,
emphasizing key words that I thought they knew and gesturing, “You
know, I don’t need knives; I’m meditating and studying with a holy
master from Tibet... there are many monks, nuns, lamas Nepalese and
Tibetan some westerners, like me. Now I’m
just going up to the cave to sit. What
would I do with these knives? I can tell
they killed, they took many lives. I have
sons your age. I could be your mother”. Then, they started to talk.
Most youths in Nepal know the word mother and son. My eyes were telling them something and I felt
really sad and warm at the same time. I
felt like I was crying inside. “You have
sons”? “Yes, just like you”.
“I know you want money; So, I’ll give you money but I
don’t need your knives. I’ll give you
money if you promise me one thing. Please,
I would tell my sons this”. “What”? “Please, don’t take human life.
Sometimes you kill for food, but don’t kill humans unless
they are hurting you and your family”. I
pulled out all my rupees. “I need to keep
a little for the Lama because he is teaching me today”.
Now their faces changed. They became my sons. Nepali
boys venerate their mothers and elders. “Thanks,
they said and can we meet you later and show you our country and home?
All the days you are here we will take care of you, mother.” I felt sad and happy.
got what they wanted and I didn’t panic...panic and fear would have
created more red hot negative energy and loss of consciousness.
I had greeted that day with
wanting to learn something new. I
learned something about myself, that I truly love and that when I am in
flow I can cope with situations that go way beyond my creative
imagination or conceptual problem solving abilities.
woke that morning in a state of heightened awareness and meeting the
youths gave me the opportunity to experience new behaviors within a
flow state of loving-kindness. That day I appreciated life freshly. I
saw, with my eyes wide open and my heart
throat. My ears perked to communication all around and I felt on the
edge of the unknown like everything was alive and moving, anything was
possible. I felt also a new trust in my
to carry me through unknown situations, that there was a core of
genuine curiosity and honesty an intuitive understanding and interest
in mutual outcome.
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How To Ask For A Raise
Genie Z. Laborde, Ph.D.
you have been in a job for nine months, think you are doing a great job
and have some rapport with your boss, you might consider
ASKING for A RAISE.
find out from old-timers what is the usual procedure about this. If everyone gets a raise once a year, better
wait it out. If there is no “usual,” then
you begin your research.
the salaries of similar positions in your company?
the salaries of similar positions in other companies?
the national average for your position? (You may turn up a promising
new job in all this research).
list of all your accomplishments in your present job.
Find at least one that stands out.
Now you are ready.
this next move is really weird, make an appointment with your boss.
reason you deserve a raise, then request the raise in these words or
similar words; For example:
solved the problem in the mailroom that was costing us $4,000 a month,
and I would like
to consider giving me an increase in salary.” Or “I can’t buy
gas for my car and I need a raise in pay.” Or “The national
average salary for EA’s is______and mine is _____.
I believe I deserve an increase in my pay.”
begin the request, hand your boss your list of outstanding
accomplishments. This should be written
with bullet points.
quietly while he looks over the list and thinks, then listen carefully.
next response depends on his answer.
Keep this point in mind. Even if you don’t
win the raise today, s/he’s been approached and knows you believe you
should earn more. S/he also knows you’ve
been comparing salaries and may exit soon if s/he doesn’t respond
you’ve asked for a raise and been refused you may want to explore other
He knows this too.
break rapport with your request, but temporary loss of rapport is
better than “broke.” Usually you can
regain rapport with time and skill. Drama
doesn’t work. Keep it light.