Volume 1, Number 3
The VAK, est. 1982
|High Resource States
Interview with Anger Management Consultant and Long-Time
I.D.E.A. Trainer David Brady
training with Genie gave me a foundation for understanding
a lot of things in the human service field.
I’ve worked in mental health, I’ve
worked in education, and I was able to use many of
those practices and model them. I put them to work in a variety of situations, so I think
that put me in a better spot—a little more flexible
to pick up
on new ideas and to understand when I saw something
Probably the most valuable
thing I learned from Genie’s work was
how to obtain and maintain a high resource state. That was useful in the domestic violence field.
It led me to understand that when people are
involved in a domestic dispute, their state lowers and as a result, all
sorts of automatic behavior starts coming out.
Then it’s a simple right-wrong game. Somebody
throws out the bait, somebody bites, and you’re
off and running.
It’s very useful to ask people, “What
was the last thing you remember your partner saying
before every thing cut loose?” Then I
backward chain that to try to find out what was going
on without traumatizing the person. That’s
a real big problem, because I discovered that when
people are involved in domestic violence, the perpetrators
are also traumatized, although they aren’t consciously
aware of it sometimes. They are also acting
out a traumatization they have had in the past.
They are also modeling
some metaphors rampant in our culture—war metaphors—win-or-lose
type things. Then they can’t discuss anything
without somebody having to be right and winner.
That causes a lot of problems.
at large says it’s OK to use force, with certain
justifications. For example, when they decided
By Genie Z. Laborde
brain is designed to select certain information
from the world around you.
The information you do not notice is deleted—left
out. This selection
process becomes a habit, and we delete enormous
amounts of information, so when someone tells you,
“You are not listening,” that’s
true. You probably did
not select every word the other said to pay attention
to. What this means is a good listener selects more
Have you been waiting on the Japanese and Chinese
editions of Influencing
with Integrity to
By Genie Z. Laborde
July we sent a contract to a
Japanese publisher at their request, and got very
excited over seeing how “dovetailing”
looks in Japanese. Metaphorical words are not easily
translated. Sometimes, the idea simply doesn’t
exist in other languages. As time passes
the excitement diminishes, but “wait
and see” are the passwords in the publishing
industry. Everything is decided by committee,
and committees hate to commit.
In April a reading
copy of Influencing With Integrity
was requested by a Chinese publisher, more
© 2004 Genie Z. Laborde. All rights reserved.
VAK FOR IRAQ?
By Genie Z. Laborde
captivated by the quality of the writing in the New
York Times and reading it each morning gives me another
perspective from the California viewpoint (favorite subject
of clever jokes). Each morning as I read about the situation
of American troops in Iraq--the deaths, our mounting debt,
the lack of electricity and drinking water, the palatable
and increasing hatred for the U.S. — I explore, in
my mind’s eye, solutions. more
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Residential. Begins Friday night.
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1 — CAPTURING A PEAK PERFORMANCE
At the beginning and the end of the seminar
you will be video taped stating your outcomes for the five days. The
other participants score you on verbal and nonverbal presentation skills.
You dissect the sensory pieces of your own resource state with the help
of others. Before-and-after video tapes are yours.
2 — CREATIVE LEADERSHIP
An important step toward leadership and
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You'll learn the three key attributes of leaders and how to develop
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The skills of the first two days are enhanced
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key teaching points of the 12 modules of the three-day training. Instructor's
manuals distributed. Good time to review basic skills so that new discoveries
occur for the remainder of the training. The immersion in energy
skills allows and supports breakthroughs in personal patterns.
4 — CONGRUENCE
Commitment of all your resources to a goal
results inevitably in congruence. How do you know whether or not all
your sub-personalities are aligned? Here we continue work in personal
awareness so that total commitment is possible. Congruence is rare and
highly valued in business. Ongoing verbal and written feedback from
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5 — BRIDGING
Bridging Exercises to ensure you retain
the skills in the everyday world.